re: sexualities/intimacy

Judy Diamondstone (diamonju who-is-at rci.rutgers.edu)
6 Mar 1998 02:49:32 -0000

Hi, Ricardo and Diane. In response to Ricardo
>>Yes, I think the consistency of a relationship can make people of
>>the same sex become living togeher and do have a sexual life without
>>necessity of being labeled "gay", "straight" or whatsoever label...

By "consistency" I didn't mean necessarily monogamy. I meant that the
terms of relationship, however they are negotiated, are honored by both
parties.
No betrayals or deceptions. This has nothing to do with choices of sexual
behavior.

>>Well, nothing is forever. To live is not forever... So many people
>>do have a good time and are "open" to love and to be loved (by) someone
>>special (man,woman,gay etc).

One might also say, everything is always. Whatever moments we make for
ourselves, they last.

In response to Diane, I agree. Relational violence is the significant
issue - it too can be consistent; what counts is the quality of the
intimacy, and that partly depends on how well we can leave each other
alone!

Judy

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