Yes, I think the consistency of a relationship can make people of
the same sex become living togeher and do have a sexual life without
necessity of being labeled "gay", "straight" or whatsoever label...
I'm trying to find the words to express my thoughts: In portuguese there
are to diferent words to the verb "to be" ("estar" and "ser"). "estar"
is something like "to stay", something provisional and "ser" (to be) is
somethig definitive. So what I mean is that someone can "estar"(stay for
while, a month or forever...) gay but not necessarily "ser" (be) gay.
Well, nothing is forever. To live is not forever... So many people
do have a good time and are "open" to love and to be loved (by) someone
special (man,woman,gay etc).
But I think "rise" the "coloured" gay flag is necessary and fundamental
to guarantee freedom of choice and sexuality expression in a
multicultural world.
Judy Diamondstone wrote:
>
> Hi, Diane and Ricardo. I'm appreciating the exchange between you two.
> It's refreshing to have the opportunity in THIS our XMCA forum for
> talk about cultural historical development to THINK TOGETHER about our
> sexualities and to question the constraints we do or do not acknowledge.
> It would be great to develop a developmental narrative in which
> the arena of sexual "transgressions" [however you imagine/enact
> "transgression"] - were less charged. Unlikely, I think. What should
> matter much more than sex of one sort or another is consistency of
> relationship. What do you think?
>
> Diane, can you post the name of your novel?
>
> Judy
>
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